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Spouse does not allow mother-in-law to have Labrador’s ashes when she dies Criticized

A woman has come under fire online for refusing her mother-in-law’s request to have the ashes of the family dog ​​when she dies.

The disgruntled mother shared the strange request with Mumsnet, under the username budgiegirl, revealing that her in-laws had always loved the family Labrador.

The post, which can be read here, has racked up more than 131 replies since it was shared on Tuesday.

The mother explained that her family’s dog is ‘elderly’, saying: ‘He is advancing in years and has been so ill recently that we were hoping we would have to put him to sleep.

“Happily he has recovered well and is back with us for at least a while longer, although I am aware that his time is short.”

File photo of a dog’s ashes. A mother-in-law has demanded the ashes of the family dog, which belongs to her son.
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Losing a pet is part of an owner’s life, due to the shorter life span of our furry friends.

The Labrador Retriever is the most popular breed in the United States, as it is “famously friendly,” according to the American Kennel Club (AKC).

These “friendly, outgoing, lively fellows” live for about 11 to 13 years.

There are many ways to commemorate a pet, as the AKC noted, owners may opt for paw print molds, while some people choose to turn their pet’s ashes into diamonds, tattoo ink, and even put them in a bullet.

The price of cremation varies; at one location in the UK, where the family is believed to be based, the cost was £155 ($176) for a medium dog, £120 ($136) for a small dog and £190 ($216) for a small dog. a big one.

Additional services, such as a wooden coffin, cost £30 ($34), same-day cremation costs £50 ($56) and collection or delivery of ashes costs £55 ($62).

Barnsley Metropolitan Council assured owners that “after cremation, your pet’s ashes will be carefully placed in a coffin or urn of your choice.”

On Mumsnet, the poster explained that her husband’s father was “completely obsessed” with the dog, saying: “He absolutely adored him, and often took care of us (along with MIL). It was an ongoing joke that FIL preferred the dog to anyone else.” “. more in our family.

“Over the years, we also discovered that my in-laws would sometimes let people think the dog was theirs and make the odd comment that the dog preferred them to us, wanted to keep them, didn’t want to go back to home when they took care of him, etc. (not true, but we just smiled and nodded and said what a good job they did taking care of him)”.

Unfortunately, the father-in-law passed away a few months ago and the mother-in-law had her husband cremated, displaying his ashes in a glass case in the house.

It’s understandably been a “difficult” time for her, and she’s apparently coped well, but “struggling” when alone, the poster read.

In her grief, the mother-in-law requested to have the farmer’s ashes when she died, to display them alongside her husband.

The Mumsnetter wrote: “When the dog was ill, MIL told me that she hoped that when the dog finally passed away, we would leave her ashes with her, to place on the shelf next to her late husbands.

“My immediate reaction was to say no. I have absolutely no intention of retrieving my dogs’ ashes, I think they would find it too emotionally upsetting, and I certainly don’t want to have to see them sitting by the ashes of the FIL when I visit.”

After denying the request, the woman admitted she felt “guilty,” adding, “MIL was really sad when I said no, and even though we moved quickly through the conversation, she was pretty upset. I appreciate that she’s grieving for her husband.” . and this would probably bring her some comfort, but she really, really hated the idea.

“SHAME [am I being unreasonable] tell her no, or should I let her keep the ashes when the time comes?

Numerous people asked why she did not grant her mother-in-law’s wish, as it would bring her comfort, while noting that the family did not want to keep the ashes.

WaffleIron asked, “Why wouldn’t you split the ashes? It’s strange…”

Redtshirt50 commented, “I’d give it to him if you don’t intend to keep it; it seems like it would give him some comfort to think of your FIL and the dog together wherever they are.”

Primeoflife responded, “We have our dogs’ ashes because the kids didn’t want to get rid of them! They’ve become a fixture now. I’d let her face it if it makes her happy.”

Porcupineintherough added, “Well, it’s up to you of course, but would it really cause you that much anguish to grant her wish? You could even just give her a small portion of the ashes and scatter/bury the rest,” though Pixiedust1234 said, “I wouldn’t let No one else had control of my pets’ ashes. If you don’t want them, let the vet take care of it.”

news week could not verify the details of the case.

The chart below, provided by Statista, shows popular dog breeds in the US.

Infographic: The Most Popular Dog Breeds in the US |  statist You will find more infographics at Statista

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